Imagine this. Your grandfather bequeaths you his pet dog.You have always liked the dog. It's cuddly, it's great with kids, it can do tricks. And you have to take it, it was your grandfather's dying wish. There's just one tricky thing about the dog. He hates cats, and given the chance will kill them.
You take the dog, You didn't really have a choice, You are now in possession of a dangerous dog.
Is it your fault? No, it was your grandfather's dying wish that you look after the dog well.
Is it your responsibility to make sure the dog doesn't kill cats? What do you think?
Is it your responsibility to keep the dog on a lead, to keep a look out for cats, and go in the other direction whenever you have the dog out for a walk and spot a cat?
How does this connect with you?
We all have tricky brains. Our brain has evolved to keep us safe from prehistoric dangers so we are all prone to be more angry and anxious (to name but two tricky emotions) than is often helpful.
Many of you may have had tricky lives so far. You didn't choose to be born into the family you were born into. You didn't choose to have all the difficult experiences you have had. You didn't choose to have a tricky brain.
It's not your fault.
But it is your responsibility.
It's not your fault but it is your problem. It's your responibility to learn how to deal with a tricky brain and tricky emotions.
The dog owner should not blame herself for owning a dangerous dog. You should not blame yourself for owning a tricky brain.
But the dog owner should accept responsibility to keep everyone safe. You should try to learn about and develop ways of keeping yourself and others safe.
It is your responsibility to try to become a better version of yourself.
Yoda would say that's it's your responsibility to do more than just try ....