Saturday, January 21, 2017

The nightmare has come true - can heaven - or philosophy - help us?

"Your Stoic nightmare has come true... heaven help us! "  was one good friend's response to Donald Trump's inauguration as the 45th President of the United States of America. 

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Regular readers might recall my personal journey  - after Brexit in Juneconcern about Trump  winning, a visit to New York and the Stoic Negative Visualisation about Trump becoming President workshop  in October  and then the article on the Stoic response to Trump once he was  elected in November. 

Just  writing those words "Donald Trump the 45th President of the United States of America" leads to a visceral sinking feeling  in my heart.  Maybe you have a similar reaction? Today,  let's see if we can work together on moving beyond this.

Can I be totally candid with you for one moment? Yesterday, during Trump's inauguration, I escaped into La La Land, quite literally. Whilst my wife was playing Trump's speech to the family, I did the equivalent of putting my fingers in my ear and shouting "La La La" by going to the next room, closing the door and watching this charming clip from La La Land. 

That's the  dilemma - blissful escapism or active engagement?

Faced with  leaders like Caligula, Caesar, Nero,  the ancients faced a similar dilemma, and Roman philosophers split into two opposing camps.

First, let's examine the Stoic response. Real Stoics, as opposed to cartoon Stoics, don't stiffen their upper lip, grin or bear it.   As Lindsay Varnum  suggests, Stoicism can be a good philosophy for passionate people. Professor Chris Gill  goes further pointing to examples like Cato the younger  of  Stoics political activists.

The Stoic response to Trump becoming President  is to  first reflect deeply about how to respond virtuously and wisely to such a difficult notion.   Stoic mindfulness  requires you to vigilantly challenge catastrophising and defeatist thinking alike. You then use Serenity Prayer wisdom to  distinguish what is in your control and what is not.  
"Trump's President, can't control that - but how I respond - I can control that!"

According to the Stoic you should respond with self-control, compassion, justice, courage and wisdom.  One Stoic American  political commentator,  Carrie Sheffield, argues for philosophical reflection and political activism as a response , quoting  approvingly the words of former the second US president John Adams

“I must study politics and war that my sons may have liberty to study mathematics and philosophy. My sons ought to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, naval architecture, navigation, commerce, and agriculture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry, and porcelain.”

John Adams 2nd President of the USA
Picture souce: Wiki commons

So the Stoic response to Trump is to get busy.   Work hard at reflecting on what you should do . This  might well mean becoming  involved in campaigns to limit the damage that Trump may cause.  You could well become  part of the effective opposition. 

A word of clarification is required here. As Philosophy for Life and other Dangerous Situations author Jules Evans has observed, some alt-right Americans have identified themselves as Stoics  - and  they are quite probably rejoicing . But as Evans writes  " ..there’s ... an aspect of alt-right neo-masculinity that is less drawn to virtue ethics and more to a sort of primitive tribalism or gang-culture". If Donald Trump is a good Stoic then I'm Caligula's horse.

But Stoicism is not the only possible philosophical response to turbulent times.  Epicureans decided the best response was to insulate themselves and form a community of like-minded friends away from the cares of the world.  As with the Stoics, popular culture  provides mainly misinformation.  Epicureans  did not advocate a lavish lifestyle. "Send me a pot of cheese so I can have a feast when I care to" wrote Epicurus  to a friend. So whilst "cartoon Epicureanism" consists of  sex and drugs and rock'n'roll, if you wanted to live like a true Epicurean you would
  • spend a lot of time with like-minded friends
  • live a simple life optimising your long-term happiness
  • think rationally about anything that made you anxious to help dispel your anxieties
  • turn off the news
In other words, you'd be  like I was yesterday and be turning off the Trump inauguration speech and watching La La Land.

                                             Epicurean Living - chilling out with friends
                                                        Copyright: IKO / 123RF Stock Photo

So which is it to be? Stoicism or Epicureanism? Active engagement or blissful escapism?  Perhaps turning to two other well-known philosophies to help decide. 

Utilitarianism tells us to maximise universal happiness.  
"[A} ctions are right in proportion as they tend to promote happiness, wrong as they tend to produce the reverse of happiness.
wrote John Stuart Mill, a well-known Victorian proponent of utilitarianism.

A utilitarian response would look a lot more like Stoicism then Epicureanism.  Its universal happiness you are supposed to maximise. If anything, the utilitarian will become even more actively involved than the Stoic. Utilitarians prioritise benevolence as a virtue, and active contemporary utilitarians like Peter Singer commit  to political activism and donate a good portion of their salaries to worthy causes. Unless there really was nothing that could be done to help those who might lose out or be threatened by Trump -  women, minorities, non-Americans - then Utilitarians would be skeptical about the Epicurean response.  A utilitarian might well agree with the first three pieces of Epicurean advice - but they might say that retreating into La La Land  sounds too much like  fiddling whilst Rome burns. 

Peter Singer, a contemporary utilitarian
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A fourth philosophy, Existentialism suggests a still different response.

Viktor Frankl, author of Man's Search for MeaningPicture source: Wiki Commons

Existentialist concentration camp survivor Frankl  proposed that everyone has their own specific vocation or mission in life to carry out. Your  task is to work out what the meaning of your life should be. Given your skills, talents and resources (including money), what could the meaning of your life be?
On the other hand existentialists like Jean-Paul Sartre tell us to invent our own meaning in life and be the author of our own lives. The existentialist would say there is no objective answer to whether active engagement or blissful escapism is best.  This thought experiment might help you decide your existentialist response to this dilemma. Imagine sitting in your rocking chair towards the end of your life. Now imagine two different versions of your life. Version one has you being actively involved in doing all you can to set the worlds to rights despite Trump. In version two you focus on your own enjoyment and do your best to ignore politics. Which version of yourself do you choose?

Jean-Paul Sartre, existentialistPicture source: Wiki commons

In the end you do have to choose what sort of person you are going to be - and not choosing is still making a choice.

Four philosophies, four (or was it five?) different answers. But perhaps there is a way to incorporate the best of all these philosophies.

  • As the Stoics suggest, work out what you can change and what you can't and focus on the only on what you can change
  •  Stoics and Epicureans both urge you to use your rationality to avoid any unhelpful  anxiety or depression 
  • Epicureans and Utilitarians agree that your happiness matters, so when you are not what you can to improve the world, enjoy yourself
  • If you can change the world, then Stoics and Utilitarians urge you to behave  compassionately and benevolently towards helping others
  • Recalling Frankl's advice, think about  your unique skills, resources and talents  and how you can  make a positive difference to the world
  • As Jean-Paul Sartre would say, be the author of your own life and decide what sort of person you want to be and live accordingly
I'll say this, for Trump, at least he's got us thinking.

Friday, January 20, 2017

Why you don't have to be in La La Land to believe you can fulfil your potential

If you haven't seen La La Land yet, then go see it! You will be  transported into another world.  Two hours later you will leave the cinema with a smile on your face and  a spring in your step.

La La Land  can also act as a prompt for reflecting on the relative importance of achievement versus love, but let's leave that discussion for another time -  no spoilers here!

So today I want to talk about the real life achievement of Ryan Gosling in learning to play the piano like a virtuoso in just 3 months. This is how good he got ...

How did Gosling achieve such a level of performance in just over 3 months?  Here's the story.

There are 3 lessons we can all take from Ryan Gosling

1) You can achieve more than you think.
You might think that to learn to play the piano like that you have to start at the age of 3 or have musical parents. Gosling shows that this is just not true. You may or may not want to play the piano well. The point is, whatever you want, don't assume that it's too late.

2) You have to put in the practice
A positive attitude is a good start, however you can't just think your way to success. Gosling put in 3 to 4 hours every day for 3 to 4 months. To achieve what is important to you, you will have to put some time and effort in too. Anders Ericsson is famous for the 10000 hours of  "deliberate practice" rule.

 On average, it has been found one  needs ten thousand hours of  deliberate practice to become an expert.This usually takes 10 years. Clearly Ryan Gosling found a shortcut!
 (By my calculation if he did 4 hours practice for 100 days, thats just 400 hours. But that's still a lot of practice, and if Gosling had wanted to learn how to play all pieces well, not just the pieces in the film, he would need to keep practicing.)

Former table tennis Matthew Syed  and author of Bounce: The Myth of Practice and the Power of Practice speaks of the need for "purposeful practice". It's not just the hours you put in, its what you do with the hours.

3) You have to learn the right skills

In any sphere, there are certain skills you need to learn to achieve greatness or even competence. If you struggle with something, maybe it's not about you,, its just that you need to learn the right skills.

Betty Edwards  runs a course for adults where she can turn anyone into a competent artist after just five days. How does she do this? By breaking down the steps into manageable and learnable chunks.

If you put these three things together they will help you develop a growth mindset

Developing a growth mindset can help with passing  exams, sporting success  and many other benefits.

In my book Achieve Your Potential with Positive Psychology  I explain numerous tools to help you achieve your potential, including  developing a growth mindset as well step by step planning and overcoming emotional obstacles to success using CBT. These can help you towards achieving a long-cherished ambition as well as being happy and more successful.

Much as I enjoyed writing the book, it's even more satisfying to work face to face, coaching people and helping them to fulfill their dreams. A  few weekly meetings to kick start your creative process followed by regular monthly meetings to track progress and maintain motivation can make a huge  positive difference.

Why not make 2017 the year you achieve your own potential? I'd love to help you.